Here are five things that men should be doing throughout November (and regularly!) for their best life!

1. Check yourself

Yes, once a month, while in the shower, roll your testes between thumb and fingers to get to know what’s normal. They should feel smooth, firm and sensitive, but not painful. If you notice a change in size or shape, a lump that wasn’t there before, or if they become painful to touch, see a doctor.

2. Carve out bro time

It has been proven that men need to take the time biweekly to be with good friends. Whether playing sports or just sitting and having a drink, the effects are enormous. A reportby a professor of Oxford University says that “men who maintain social groups are healthier, recover from illness more quickly and tend to be more generous”. Women, the perfect excuse to push them out of the house. Their life depends on it!

3. Say how you feel

If you don’t feel like you can open up to your closest friends, know where to go. If you are having a tough time and need someone to talk to, contact Bermuda Mental Health Foundation for an anonymous call. If a friend is looking to talk, try to ask questions, listen intently, encourage action, and check in with them later. Opening up has been proven to put things in perspective and release tension, leading to a longer and happier life.

4. Make movement a lifestyle

If you do one thing this month, make it a resolution to move more. Research suggests that exercise may help to counter the decrease in testosterone in men as they age. It also decreases the risk of lung, colorectal and other cancers, and heart disease; while lowering the risk of death by diabetes and sleep apnea.

5. Know your facts

About testicular cancer

Testicles are responsible for the production of male hormones (mostly testosterone) and sperm. Testicular cancer starts as an abnormal growth or tumor that develops in one or both testicles. There are several types of testicular cancer, but the most common is the germ cell tumor.

About prostate cancer

Only men have a prostate gland. The prostate gland is usually the size and shape of a walnut and grows bigger as you get older. It sits underneath the bladder and surrounds the urethra, which is the tube men urinate and ejaculate through. Its main job is to help make semen – the fluid that carries sperm.

Prostate cancer occurs when some of the cells in the prostate reproduce far more rapidly than normal, resulting in a tumor. Prostate cancer often grows slowly to start with and may never cause any problems. But some men have prostate cancer that is more likely to spread. These prostate cancer cells, if left untreated, may spread from the prostate and invade distant parts of the body, particularly the lymph nodes and bones, producing secondary tumors in a process known as metastasis.

A common myth is that these types of cancers only occur in men older than 45. The truth is that young men can be affected and should be checking themselves regularly – even to know what’s normal – and creating habits that make up a lifestyle that works for both their physical and mental. Early detection of cancers, diseases and mental health issues is the difference between life and death. So, do what you need to do.

Happy Movember!

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Ladies:

Pant suits have been a favourite for designers and street stylers for some time now. However the trend seems to pick up even more steam recently. Maybe it started as a nod to Hillary Clinton, but coupled with the likes of the #metoo movement and the ever-increasing push to empower women, we have seen the trend dominate fashion pages and runways. The pant suit’s ability to combine power, style and femininity makes it a wardrobe must-have.

If you’re thinking the pant suit of the 2000s however, change your train of thought. Instead think 80s and broad shoulders, high waists and great tailoring. Wear with sneakers, heels or brogues, with a t-shirt, button down or blouse. Pant suits will take you to the office, through to dinner and the after party. Its versatility is what makes it a must-buy.

The Fall 2018 runways saw a slew of wild and wacky pant suit options, but if you want to keep it polished, smart, sophisticated, and office appropriate with an edge, go for a classic tailored pantsuit in either black, navy or grey or for the more brave opt for bold solids. Pastels are still in and pink or dusted blue look amazing as pantsuits. For boardroom ready choose a simple shirt for understated chic and pair with metallic shoes for added interest. For evening vibes throw your suit jacket over a dress adding some embellished flats for glamour. To keep it casual add a classic white tee to your tailored look, with some jewel toned accessories to add a flash of colour.

For the men:

There was a time was when brown meant drab, but think rich and warm shades of brown and you’ll have your colour of choice for the season. These hues exude confidence, sophistication and creativity for those men brave enough to wear it. Treat this wonderful colour pallete of camel, cognac and caramel to name a few, as you would treat black, greys and navys, to create striking yet versatile pieces which strike a timeless, classic chord.

Beige, taupe and chocolate were some of the key shades from the wild-west themes that graced the catwalks, with these brown based inspired hues creating quite the statement worn from head-to-toe. If you are brave enough to rock the all-over brown ensemble, then ensure there is a variance in tone to break up the look. Alternatively if you want to wear only one statement camel piece, make it a tailored blazer and pair it with neutral colours and simple designs, such as a white shirt, blue jeans, and sneakers.

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Ah, the joys of the fairer sex.

Luckily there are some books out there to help you try and get inside her head, although it’s entirely possible they will just leave you even more confused than before.

Still, you can but try, and for some helpful hints check out the informative, yet frankly terrifying, The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine, M.D.

Other tomes that are worth a look include: Self Help, by Lorrie More, a book for men “who worry they’ll never be able to relate to a female character”; The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P, by Adelle Waldman, a book to help men “understand the seemingly mysterious behavior of women in relationships”.

If those first three aren’t enough for you, then take a look at the list below for some books that can help men understand women, at least a little bit better.

Bad Behaviour, by Mary Gaitskill

In Gaitskill’s dark, even ominous short stories, which are filled with dysfunctional relationships and lurid details, there’s an honesty about relationships between men and women that can be uncomfortable to take. And while many male authors have recounted distasteful liaisons and sexual misadventures in literature, Gaitskill’s perceptive portrayal of how real women think and behave — and how their fantasies and desires mingle uneasily with harsh reality — adds a piece to the psychological puzzle. Instead of obscure objects of desire, as women in such stories penned by men often are, Gaitskill’s women are alive, and have their own thoughts and actions, sometimes.

The Group, by Mary McCarthy

There simply aren’t enough books out there about female friendship. As Virginia Woolf herself wrote in A Room of One’s Own, literature by men often fails to imagine what women might talk about when men aren’t there. “I tried to remember,” she writes, “any case in the course of my reading where two women are represented as friends.” But of course, women often have powerful friendships. The Group explores the friendship of eight women over the years after they graduate from college, and it does so in an honest and unflinching way. While women often read about male friendships, it’s just as important for men to read about women’s.

You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, by Deborah Tannen

This book reveals “a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing. Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said.”  She also gives you the tools to understand what went wrong — and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations.

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Striving to make themselves, their families and their island better than before, all are driven to succeed, but no two stories are the same. We spoke to 12 of these industry leaders of the future about their businesses, their motivation, and what it means to work for yourself.

Jahde Dowling
Business: King Jah Beatz
Audio engineer Jahde has had a passion for music for as long as he can remember, and by the time he was 15 had convinced his mom to buy him a beats machine for Christmas. That passion took him to Full Sail University where he graduated second in his class.
A producer at radio station Hott 107.5, he also works independently on the sound for commercials, and music videos.

Taking the step:
“Some of the biggest challenges in this industry when it comes to getting up and running I really didn’t have to face. I was afforded the luxury of being able to start in a place that was already established.
“I had a few bumps in the road on my way to finally starting my own recording company, and I believe that the hard times, and the desire to prove that I am good at what I do, drove me to start doing some independent work.”

Dream job:
“I would absolutely love to work with some companies like Disney, Sony and Warner Music Groups and possibly go to and live in the USA to become an internationally recognised engineer. I would love to win a Grammy or even be recognized by the Music Producers Guild for engineering.”

Michiko Campbell

Business: Chiko’s Smokey Rub
Not content with having one business, Michiko, who also is the chef at the Royal Bermuda Yacht Club, has three, and not all of them are in the food industry. While the Smokey Rub is the most well known, and the outside catering business is what you might expect from a chef, Michiko is also a carpenter of note, specialising in one of a kind pieces for private clients.

So, Michiko, a chef and a carpenter, tell us about that
“I had a talent for working with wood, so I started Chiko The Builder. I can create anything a customer wants; benches, coffee tables, bed headboards, anything. I started working in a carpentry workshop at the age of eight with my uncle. I believe it is always great to have a trade under your belt.”

How did Chiko’s Smokey Rub come into being?
“It started with a comment where someone asked me about a rub I had made. They said I should sell it, so, I did. Also, my wife, Sherelle Campbell, is my other driving force, she believed in me. From the first day I started I said ‘Chiko’s Smokey Rub and Rellz Hott Graphics [my wife’s business] working together will take us far’. She created my logos and does all my marketing. It helped get the businesses off the ground.”

What is the most satisfying thing about your businesses?
“Giving back every year because of how well the business is doing; or hearing the people’s comments and feedback, or just walking in the street and people saying ‘that’s the rub guy’ or just knowing you as spice man.
“I feel very inspired knowing that I’m doing something right and I have that consistent support from family, friends, and customers. I love the reviews I receive after building something for someone. I had built some planter boxes for a preschool and the compliments on my work that I received from teachers and parents were heartwarming.”

Andre Manders
Business: Fresh Fit
Andre’s business is fashion, specifically hats, he just loves hats – and Bermuda, of course, so it makes sense that his brand’s sole purpose is to promote “Bermuda pride and culture in a stylish fashion”

Getting started:
“As a college student studying abroad, I was big on representing my country. Each time I went back to school I would spend at least $500 to $1000 on Bermuda-branded. One particular mid-term break in 2011 I was in Brooklyn when I walked into a Lids store to buy a few hats. I noticed they had blank hats and offered customers the option to customise the hat.
“Being full of Bermuda pride I asked them to make me a hat that said 441 and BDA. I was in love with my hats. However, it wasn’t until the summer of 2012 when I wore one of my hats to a football at Rangers that the idea came to me.
“Everyone asked me where I got the hat from and how could they get one. That was the day I decided to start my own brand. I came up with the logo and name within the month. Although it took me four years to actually follow through with the idea, that’s how I got started.”

Facing a challenge:
“When I officially started in September 2016 there were a lot more local talented entrepreneurs who had started their own clothing brands. The market isn’t as open as it used to be in 2012. A sense of Bermuda pride is a lot stronger now than it was. As a result there is a lot of competition, which is good.
“However, one of the biggest challenges is trying to differentiate yourself from others. People often think you are stealing or copying ideas. When the reality is, I have been planning this and thinking about this for years.
“I have a ton of ideas and in due time I will differentiate my brand.”

The future:
“I want to become well established here in Bermuda and be able to cater to everyone; locals and tourist. Secondly, my ultimate goal is to expand internationally. I have already received a few offers to have my brand in stores abroad; which is great, but I’d rather solidify my brand here in Bermuda first.”

Greg De Melo

Business: Misaki restaurant

As if being a senior technical adviser in the banking industry wasn’t enough, Greg decided to get into the food business. A meeting with Leo Calingasan, the former head chef at Pearl, changed his direction from a food cart idea to Bermuda’s first pick-and-mix sushi restaurant.

So, Greg, why start your own business?
“Tough question, I think the determination to be successful, to have something to call our own, and to have something that one day when I have kids they can be proud of and potentially be a part of.
“I wasn’t always focused on being successful, but after losing my father at 18 years old I was determined. I know he would be proud of my brother and I.
“You need to have the right balance for your business. You need someone who has the business skills and then someone who has the hands-on skills, Leo and I are a great combination of these. Make sure you choose the right people to go into business with.”

What advice would you give a budding entrepreneur?
“Choosing the right location is key no matter what business you’re in. Be prepared to do a lot of paper work, phone calls, following up, and running around. Make sure you ask questions and I would recommend speaking with someone in a similar industry so that you can gain some insight as to what to expect. When you make that commitment by signing contract or investing a large sum of money be prepared to work hard because it isn’t easy, but just keeping looking for the light at the end of the tunnel and you’ll get there.”

Russell Griffith (aka DJ Rusty G)

Business: DJ

From his start at college house parties to Bermuda’s Summer Splash, Rusty G is one of the island’s top DJs. Here he tells us about how he got his start in the business, and what drives him every day.

When did you realise this was what you wanted to do as a career?
“I started playing music in college at house parties, student events and clubs. It was with a group of friends, we had a sound called Immortal Vybz Sound at the time. It wasn’t long until I realised my passion for it and decided to continue on after I finished school.”

You never get a second chance to make a first impression
“Getting started as a DJ is the hardest part. Club owners, radio stations and promoters don’t know if you are good so you have to prove that you are ready to handle it. Once given the opportunity to play in front of a crowd you have to make sure you deliver or you may never get a second chance!”

What is the best thing about what you do?
“Seeing a great crowd reaction to something I did is always satisfying. Knowing that people genuinely enjoy themselves when I play is extremely rewarding in itself.”

Sam Outerbridge

Business: Coral Coast Clothing

Sam is one of the brains behind Coral Coast Clothing, alongside business partner and friend, Adam Petty. After escaping from desk jobs that left them unfulfilled the pair began life in New York’s garment district, and now have a luxury menswear label inspired by their island home.

Sam, tell us about those early days in New York
“We went to the garment district with a passion for our idea, but no direction. We definitely learned the ropes of the fashion industry through trial and error. We has were unhappy with our 9-5 jobs as underwriters and we really wanted to create a product that Bermudians could believe in and could be known as one of the best in the world.”

What was the hardest part in getting started?
“In the early days of starting a company if you aren’t prepared to really struggle, then you are being naïve. With every peak comes a lull that you can never forecast. You have to be strong and very adaptable in order to survive on your own.
“Most challenges in starting your own business will usually stem from a capital/monetary standpoint. You need money to make money in this day and age. Another challenge has been convincing stores and buyers that your product can compete with the big players in the market.”

What is the most satisfying thing about the work for you?
“The most satisfying thing about our business is that we are able to sell our dream to customers that genuinely love the product. It is extremely gratifying to think of a design in your head, bring it to life and then sell it!”

Piers Carr
Business: Current Vehicles

Another two man band, Piers Carr and John-Paul Doughty are the duo behind the island’s first car rental company. While John-Paul is a recent addition to the team, Piers has been dreaming of this moment for several years.

How did you first get started?
“I recognised that the corporate world wasn’t for me, and wanted to do my own thing.”

What drove you to start your own business?
“I was frustrated at seeing Bermuda consistently underperform as a tourism destination and identifying a lack of safe, reliable and affordable transportation as one of the major causes of this.”

What is the best thing about working for yourself?
“Doing something I really enjoy, and looking forward to going to work each day.”

What is the worst thing?
“It is 24/7 with very little down-time.”

What challenges have you faced while getting your business up and running?
“There have been too many to count. I now age in dog years.”

What is the most satisfying thing about your business?
“Seeing the smile on people’s faces when they drive our cars and helping to do our part to rebuild Bermuda’s tourism future.”

What are your hopes for the future?
“For Bermuda to fulfill its potential as a world-class tourism destination and for the island to make a total conversion to electric vehicles. There is no reason that within 5-10 years both can’t become a reality.”

Conor Outerbridge

Business: Freelance photographer/videographer

Something of a free spirit, Conor is hoping to let his artistic nature take flight as a freelance photographer and drone operator.

Conor, you dropped out of university to pursue your dream, tell us about that decision.
“I have always been into photography and videography and it [studying business] wasn’t something I wanted to be doing. I dropped out of Dalhousie University in December last year.
“I first got started when I was in Washington Mall one day and I saw a drone and just decided to buy it. I got my first job working on the Babymoon film with Burnt House Productions and then from there everything just took off.”

What drives you in your approach to working?
“The reason why I like it [being my own boss] so much is because I can work on my own time and pick and choose jobs I want to do. What drove me to start my own business here in Bermuda is to do something completely different than anyone else was doing. I find that a lot of people here just go to college and then come back and work in an office everyday for the rest of their lives. I want to love what I’m doing every single day.”

What has been your biggest challenge so far?
“Having to put in the initial investment of buying a lot of camera gear; drones, cameras, underwater housing , microphones, lights, the list goes on and on. Another thing that is challenging is trying to get your name out there.”

What are your plans for the future?
“I hope to travel throughout the year around the world as a freelance photographer/videographer and then be in Bermuda between May and August.”

Melvin Dickinson
Business: Mediaville

A multi-media marketing and digital agency, Mediaville is at the forefront of technology and innovation on the island, however, things might have been very different, as Melvin describes.

How did Mediaville come about?
“I give my brother Qian Dickinson the credit for getting me started. About 13 years ago my brother, under the brand Vybez Alliance, was building small websites for people while he was running his online business.
“I was in college planning to become a cardiologist and one day he called me and said he was swamped with work. He said if I was up to it he would give me one of his client websites, and I could keep all the money from the contract.
“Being broke in school I immediately took the offer, even though I knew nothing about website development. Qian sent me the files and details, I then found out that not only would I have to teach myself basic programming, but I would also have to teach myself FLASH programming and animation. With the help of Google I taught myself FLASH programming and animation overnight, and completed the website by the end of the week.
“The ability to create something from nothing was everything. From that day forward, I loved programming and I knew exactly what I wanted to do.”

What’s next?
“Our plan for the future is to continue to grow Mediaville as a powerhouse of technology and innovation.
Our goal is to revitalise the industry in Bermuda by building innovative technologies to better the lives of Bermudians. We also have plans for rapid expansion over the next few years opening satellite offices all over the United States and the Caribbean in order to continue growing our local team and expand on our international opportunities. Continuing to executing first class image, first class quality and first class service is Mediaville’s primary goal.”

Caleb Zuill

Business: Sail Bermuda

Summer is a busy time of year for Caleb, which is why we were thrilled to be able to pry him away from a day on the water for the fashion shoot and to answer some questions about his business.

Sailing is in your family’s blood, tell us how you came onboard at Sail Bermuda.
“My dad launched sailbermudayachtcharters.com right at the beginning of the dot-com era. At the time I was running a sail catamaran for another company. As his business began to grow he asked me to come and work as captain for him, which I did.
“Upon his recent retirement I rebranded the business and launched sailbermuda.com. We’ve been going ever since.”

What is the best thing about being your own boss?
“I don’t have to answer to anyone except my operations manager [Marilyn Zuill] who just happens to be my wife!”

What makes all the hard work worthwhile?
“You never really knock off, and juggling family time and work is always a challenge. Our children, who are 5 and 7, do not always understand why we have to work as much as we do.
“But, seeing smiles and hearing laughter from visitors is especially joyful for us! Also, when we receive a great Trip Advisor or Google review, it makes us realise how important businesses such as ours are to tourism and this island.”

Shaun Moniz
Business: Island Gentry

Accountant by day, gentleman by design, Shaun’s passion for style and image led him to create a social media presence that focuses on helping men become more self confident and live more meaningful lives.

Getting started
“The motivation and passion for starting my own business was ignited during a 3-day men’s lifestyle conference I attended in Atlanta in 2015 called StyleCon 2015.  The conference featured a panel of successful businesses, content creators and bloggers across the United States.
“Meeting and connecting with these individuals and business proved that it is possible to earn a living from content creation. It also offered opportunities to connect with other gentlemen that attended who also share a passion for self-improvement and to be a part of a community with like-minded individuals.”

Time crunch
“One of my biggest challenges is finding sufficient time outside of my full-time employment as an accountant to create content and grow my brand.  I find myself using my lunch hour, evenings and weekends to dedicate myself to creating content and working on my channel.”

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In this issue of RG Magazine the island’s men are the focus of our Love on the Rock series; and like the women before them, they aren’t holding back.

We asked some of the island’s top guns for their opinions on love…well, alright, sex….life, and dating on the island. Here’s what Hollywood, Goose, Iceman, Jester and Maverick had to say about being a single guy in Bermuda.

And remember, don’t hate the player ladies, hate the game:

Have you read the RG Summer article, what was your reaction to it?

Hollywood: I didn’t read the summer edition of the RG. This question makes me think I should’ve!

Iceman: I could definitely relate to some of the answers, although I suppose everyone’s experiences of love on the island are bound to differ.

Maverick: I was kinda looking more for a Bermudian woman’s perspective. And it seemed as though these woman were doing a lot of club dating.

What are the realities of dating in Bermuda for a single man?

Hollywood: The biggest challenges I find dating as a middle aged single man (generalising of course) is the younger women tend to be immature, and seemingly living their lives like they’re on a reality show. The older women seem to be jaded from previous bad relationships.

Goose: Dating for a single man in Bermuda is good and bad. It’s good in that we are outnumbered by women like 14 or 15 to one. It’s bad because there are a lot of hurt or damaged women that have been mistreated.

Iceman: Bermuda is obviously a tiny island and therefore the pool of prospective partners is significantly smaller than it would in a city like London or New York. Maybe you just have to be a bit more proactive, though. Dating can be a potential minefield regardless of whether you’re in a big city or small island.

Jester: Some realities to consider; the proximity (not in terms of physical distance) of your potential partner’s ex relations (people they have been involved with). There is only like two or three degrees of separation. The lack of privacy a small community affords you, and limited options because of family relations.

Maverick: We got options – and we have even more if your game is tight. It all depends on your stage in life. If you want to play the game, dating is easy. All you have to do is get it right with one and not blow up the bridge. After that, word of mouth works to your benefit. On the other hand, if you are looking to settle down, dating a lot of women doesn’t work to your benefit as much. You gotta sift through the sand to find the best one that suits you.

What’s the worst thing that has happened to you on a date?

Hollywood: I think the worst thing that has happened on a date is the lady continually talked about her ex and then proceeded to cry into her dessert, all while answering text messages.

Goose: Just didn’t connect. No convo or interest. We ate and then said goodnight.

Iceman: I foolishly agreed to go on a blind date (pre-Tinder era, back in the UK). I knew it was a mistake within a matter of seconds.

Jester: Found out my date was my cousin.

Maverick: This girl’s breath stunk. Not a good impression. I wanted to leave so bad, so after dinner I bailed.

Has Netflix and chill become the new normal?

Hollywood: “Netflix and chill” usually means it’s someone you don’t want be seen with in public for whatever reason. Good luck getting across the opening credits!

Iceman: Probably not a great idea for a first date. I’m a big fan of “Netflix and chill”, though.

Jester: I wouldn’t say the new normal but it is very much accepted as a date these days. There is no longer a need to plan and execute a traditional date.

Maverick: Sure. It’s easier to date this way so you don’t have to go out in public and have people all in your business. Bermuda is small. If you have Bermudians seeing every person you date – they start making stories.

What was the craziest thing that someone has done in a relationship?

Hollywood: The craziest thing that has happened in a relationship is being obsessionally accused of cheating. Apparently I was sleeping with my dental hygienist, my admin assistant, her friends! Basically any female that said hello to me in her presence constituted something nefarious.

Iceman: Isn’t everyone a little crazy?

Maverick: A girl came to my house one morning. I acted like I had just woken up when really I had just come home. She poured water on my bike muffler and yelled “Then why is your bike still hot?!”

Would you date a person who makes more money than you do?

Hollywood: Sure. Bermuda is a matriarchal society. Chances are your female partner will make more then you, get over it!

Goose: Sure.

Iceman: No problem with that. Don’t see why that should be an issue these days.

Jester: Yes. My manhood is not determined by income but impact and value I’m able to add. Being totally comfortable with one’s self is the prerequisite to not being intimidated by other people including a partner.

Maverick: Hell yeah! As long as she realises I am still the man of the household.

You can always tell by the ones that have been in multiple short-term relationships, or just have ‘special friends’. You know, the ones that can’t keep a man

Would you continue to date someone who was willing to sleep with you on a first date?

Hollywood: Sure, especially if it’s good. We’re grown folks! However, in the back of my mind I might be thinking ‘does she do this with everyone?’

Goose: Yes, if there is a connection that’s more than just physical.

Iceman: Of course. Sometimes it works out that way, other times it can take a few good dates. No big deal.

Jester: Usually the answer to that would be no, but I actually am. When the connection is good, most rules become superficial.

Maverick: Come on – of course! When you are younger, yes you think about that stuff but when you get older that don’t matter no more. Let’s be realistic, grown folks are sure and move at a faster pace. When you get older you get over the dream that the girl who waits to give you sex is the “perfect girl” and wifey material.

Do women in Bermuda have unrealistic expectations when it comes to dating?

Hollywood: I’m not sure whether you can call it unrealistic, but I do find that they have a problem defining what dating really is. For example, are we dating exclusively?  If you see me out two weeks later on another date that doesn’t make me a dog, I’m dating!

Goose: For some, yes. You can always tell by the ones that have been in multiple short-term relationships, or just have ‘special friends’. You know, the ones that can’t keep a man.

Iceman: Not that I’ve experienced. It’s the same as anywhere else I’ve been. I’m not one for grand gestures or spending big on a first date, it smacks a bit of desperation.

Jester: I don’t think so. I find their expectations to be very low in some cases. I’m not sure if that’s a function of the age bracket that I date in where women feel their time is running out so they settle, or if it’s a function of the lack of quality option available to them.

Maverick: Yes! Every woman wants to fall in love on the first date. They don’t even want to get to know you. They just want to tell you how much they love you and that they can see us together forever. Women fall for talk easily. They look for too much too fast and I am a man – I move at my own pace.

Do you use hook-up apps when you are travelling?

Hollywood: No, I don’t use hook up apps when I travel. I try to take someone with me so that isn’t an issue.

Goose: No!!

Iceman: I have done, if I’m travelling alone then it’s fun to meet up with new people from that country. Not necessarily just to “hook-up”. I guess that’s a bonus if it happens.

Jester: No, I don’t use social media except Whatsapp.

Maverick: I never have. I don’t have a need to. I get off on the thrill of the chase! Going to a place and hooking up naturally – the entire experience. Apps are short cuts and I’m just not interested.

Would you sleep with a person your friend had already slept with?

Hollywood: Bermuda is a tricky place because the eligible dating pool is so small. If you hang around long enough there is going to be some cross over. The most important thing is how you handle it.

Goose: No!!

Iceman: In Bermuda that can be inevitable.

Jester: I would sleep with them, but chances are I would not date them in a serious relationship.

Maverick: It’s happened. Sometimes you have girls who want to go through the team.

Do all Bermudian men cheat, or is that an unfair characterisation?

Hollywood: That’s an unfair characterisation, but I can see why women would feel that way. Bermudian women might be just better at it!

Goose: Unfair! Not all Bermudian men cheat. My outlook is a man can’t cheat by himself. Women are just as involved/guilty as men. In some cases, they are even worse than men.

Iceman: I think some men cheat in every country. Bermuda is no exception. Is it more acceptable here? Maybe.

Jester: That’s an unfair characterisation. No blanket character statement of a certain demographic is fair.

Maverick: I wouldn’t say all, but a good bit do. A lot depends on the kind of relationship a guy has with his partner. Some relationships are holding on just for the sake of saying they are in a relationship. Then you have the few that are in a real relationship and don’t cheat.

Would you date someone with children?

Hollywood: I’m middle aged so the chances of me finding a partner in an already limited dating pool without children is very slim. You have to be willing to accept the calf with the cow, or you will find yourself very lonely.

Goose: I have. There are a lot of single moms in Bermuda, young and old. Females without children are slim pickings these days, that, or they are too young.

Iceman: I have done. If you like someone enough it’s just something you have to deal with.

Jester: No, the intention is not to and so far I haven’t. But as time grows longer most people’s standards are likely to soften. As long as I am childless, I think this will be a deal breaker.

Maverick: Yes, I would date someone with children. However, I prefer [if they are] up to five years old. You can groove with them a lot better when they are young.

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